I’m going on a mini vacation, with family. That’s always a complicated mess of emotions ranging from how much I love and treasure the time with them to can we just be in separate corners now before I throw something. We’re off to the beach to spend some quality time doing absolutely nothing and so I won’t complain, much.

Still, this time with them always brings up complications of what family means, especially when they may not understand or accept all the parts of you. I think of my chosen family, queer and wild and holding each other so close right now, always, across space and time.

I will take much to Yemaya’s salt waters these coming days and I will be honored to have met the solstice with her. The challenge will be finding a space to do ritual, but in the past I’ve found that sacred space and resources are always available if I take the time to look.


I created a tarot spread for this trip- a union of what might go in a travel spread and relationship spread. It’s not just for family. This works for any trip taken with a loved one- friend, family, or lover. Moreover, the trip doesn’t have to be a physical move from one place to another. Relationships are in and of themselves long journeys, and a check in is always worthwhile.


1. What is the energy around this journey?

2. How can I show up for myself during this journey?
3. How can I show up for them (or be specific)?

4. How might I grow from this journey?
5. How might we grow with each other?

6. What energy should I release during this journey?
7. What energy should I bring back with me?

I hope this helps all of you who are on your various journeys with your loved ones. Take the time to show up in each step.

Try it and let me know how it goes!


Hi, I’m Asali! I’m a Black queer femme earthworker passionate about tarot, tea, and healing work. Schedule a card reading with me for a deeply clarifying intuitive tarot session. You can also find me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, drop me a line!